The Power of Self-Compassion
I believe self-compassion to be our most powerful tool in becoming a happier and more fulfilled person. Unfortunately, it's a skill that we often don't really get taught and on the contrary actually even lose in adulthood. Our upbringing within an achievement-driven society, years of criticism, or unprocessed trauma often deprive of us the skill to be kind to ourselves.
We grow up believing that we don't deserve to be loved (by others and by ourselves), that nothing we do is good enough, and that only by self-criticism and continuous deprivation do we push ourselves to achieve. This couldn't be further away from the truth.
Just as a flower doesn't bloom in dark and cold conditions, it's also hard for us to bloom when we aren't surrounded by love and kindness. It all starts with ourselves.
The good news is that self-compassion can be re-learned. All we need to do is to learn to listen to ourselves and our inner processes and exercise positive self-talk.
Practicing self-compassion is a fundamental part of all of my life & health coaching practices and builds the basis for positive results.
The Three Elements of Self-Compassion according to Dr. Kristin Neff
Self-kindness vs. Self-judgment.
Learning to treat yourself like your own best friend is the foundation for healthier relationships, a better self-image and kinder self-talk.
Common humanity vs. Isolation.
We are barely alone in our suffering. Understanding this can be a powerful motivator and makes us feel less alone in our struggles.
Mindfulness vs. Over-identification
Our emotions is what makes us human, no matter whether "good" or "bad". Mindfullness allows us to recognize that and see the bigger picture.